Being in a Gay Relation

Sometime ago, I watched a documentary about transvestites, I think on a British channel. This one was about women who are involved with transvestites -- either as a boyfriend or a husband. There was a part of the show when during a drag party, the guy (who was the transvestite) proposed to his girlfriend (an honest-to-goodness woman).

Women in this situation, I guess, are capable of handling it because their partners can draw the line between being a guy and a gay. The girl said that after they went out with her boyfriend dressing up as a woman, they could go out again and this time, he would act like a real man. She does not feel he is gay in any way during the moments when he is supposed to be straight. And that works for both of them.

This documentary leads me questioning myself if I would allow myself to be in this situation. And here's how I see it:

I believe that love is a decision. But I also believe that there are some kinds of love that are greater than any decision that you may think is smarter. When that happens, you are helpless but to follow your heart. Life is not perfect and so are the elements that make it up, including the relationships that we will find ourselves in.

If this has to happen to me in the future, I will be like those women. The heart of the matter here is acceptance and I guess I have the needed serenity to open my door.